Which Secrets To Keep From Her And Which To Confess

Guys hold secrets, too. Here’s when it should stay a
secret and when you should sit her down for a
confession chat.
Got a sex secret of your own? You’re not alone – up
to 83% of men have similar secrets.
Therapists, professors, sex therapists, psychologists,
authors and a couple thousand twitter users who
were polled weigh in on the secrets worth keeping
and the ones that need to be told.
69% OF MEN HIDE THEIR
**** FREQUENCY
Don’t tell: How often you masturbate.
As long as you have satisfying sex with your partner
and feel connected to her, then she doesn’t need to
know. (Besides, she probably already does.)
83% HAVE BEEN SECRETLY ATTRACTED TO A WOMAN
OTHER THAN THEIR PARTNER
Don’t tell: Your attraction to others.
No plans to act on it, right? Then keep it to yourself. It
may hurt her feelings and isn’t likely to bring you two
closer.
14% HAVE HAD SEX WITH A PROSTITUTE WITHOUT
THEIR WIFE’S/GIRLFRIEND’S KNOWLEDGE
Don’t tell: Your one-night stand. But only if it truly was
a one-time thing and you have no intention – like,
really, none – of repeating it. Can’t handle the guilt?
Confess to a therapist, not her.
Maybe tell: That stupid thing you did at varsity. Hiding
it may make it seem bigger than it actually is. Say,
“Can I tell you something I’ve never told anyone?”
This sets her up for deeper intimacy.
36% OF MEN HAVE FAKED ORGASM
Tell: Your struggle with ED or low desire. This affects
your partner too. Men tend to keep secrets to protect
their male ego – but honesty makes you more of a
man, not less of one.
6% ARE HIDING THEIR TRUE SEXUAL ORIENTATION
Tell: You’re secretly bisexual. Being authentic is
important. Don’t sweat the timing – it’ll never be
perfect. Find the support you need, and remember
that short-term discomfort can lead to long-term
connection.
68% OF MEN HIDE THEIR P0RN WATCHING HABITS
FROM THEIR PARTNER
Tell: Your P0rn habit. No need to leave the browser
window open, but if she finds out she may wonder
why you felt the need to hide it. Ask what her
boundaries are regarding P0rn.
58% SECRETLY WANT TO HAVE A THREESOME WITH
THEIR WIFE/ GIRLFRIEND AND ANOTHER WOMAN
37% HIDE A FETISH FROM THEIR PARTNER
Tell: Your fetish or sexual fantasy. You want her to try
it with you, right? It just won’t happen if you never
share. Need a segue? Tell her you saw this article in
Men’s Health and it gave you the courage to bring it
up.
Sources: Tara Fields, therapist; Professor Marty Klein,
sex therapist; Les Parrott, psychologist; Professor Holly
Richmond, sex therapist; Michael Salas, sex therapist;
Foojan Zeine, psychologist, author of Life Reset.